An open letter to women who belittle women.

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I’m truly sick of having to interact with women who are nasty, competitive and downright NOT about the sisterhood, whether it be through work circumstances or friendship circles. We all know one (or many). They’re typically insecure and mask it through being perfectionists, enjoy making you look bad, ‘dobbing’ you in for things, and always appear switched on at the right moments. They’d do anything to climb the ladder, manipulate the truth to frame themselves in a good light, and pull you up on tiny (un-important) things, while you meanwhile bite your tongue because really – who cares whether a document is folded this way or that in the grand scheme of things? Who cares whether a sentence is written in bold, italics or CAPITAL LETTERS? Absolutely nobody cares. What matters is that you are a kind person, do your job with honesty and integrity, and look out for each other. What would Beyonce think of your petty attitude? She’d see through that fake smile in a heartbeat and smite you down, that’s what!

I’ve also been fortunate enough to meet some truly beautiful women in my working life, both inside and out. These are the ones who won’t tell the boss when you make a small mistake, who’ll have your back when you’re feeling upset, who’ll be there with you at the end of a long day to have a glass of wine and tell each other tomorrow will be better. These are the ones you’d be happy to catch up with outside of work, and who you genuinely care about. Thank God for these women! They lift you up on hard days, they understand when you’re not feeling up to it, and they make those long days slightly more bearable. We spend a lot of our lives at work, so we need a strong sisterhood to hold our heads above water.

I’ve worked in some incredibly strong teams, and some incredibly fractured teams. The fractures usually intensify in time, making for an unpleasant mixture of tension and baited breath, waiting for the storm to explode. I know what I prefer, and I’m not going to play stupid games with two-faced personality types. Life is way too short to spend it competing with each other. There are enough problems in the world so give it a break and think about what actually matters!

‘There is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.’

Madeleine K Albright. 

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Photo credits – popmyeyes & naydafernandez

5 thoughts on “An open letter to women who belittle women.

  1. I love your blog’s theme! Personally I just think women belittling others are simply jealous women masking low self esteem with criticism and unhealthy competition. Just recently, a female friend on facebook equated women who dress provocatively to slaves. I took it upon myself to educate her since slavery has nothing whatsoever to do with dressing skimpily. Her facts weren’t even right in that respect. Claiming that ancient African women wore clothes. Ancient African women did not wear much clothing. The only difference was that society wasn’t as perverse as it is at the moment. It pains me to see women using harsh words to condemn other women even if those women could be in the wrong. There are better ways to condemn women for wrongdoing without sounding like you are bashing your fellow female. Women need to always uplift one another. Black, White, Indian, Bi-racial, we are all women.

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  2. im always fascinated with the way women treat each other. and the amount of stress women end up under, from dealing with other women.

    that doesnt mean im unsympathetic. it means im smart enough to say very little about it (most of the time.)

    when i was growing up, most of my friends were female. most of my friends are still female, though i appreciate (and get along with) guys a lot better than i used to.

    i was a female supremacist once. hehe. not anymore! (i dont put too much into genders.)

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